minz sends me katherine's lines from the english patient, that i was trying to quote: most of the time i cannot bear not to touch you. the rest of the time i feel it doesn't matter if i never see you again. it isn't the morality, it's how much you can bear. it is always -- how much you can bear. the limits of our endurance and our fidelity. not our capacity to love -- so much -- as what we can bear of it --